my husband is a smoker....

well since u can;t change him. It is morning sickness i was a smoker till i gt pregnant made me sick so did the smell tell him try to wear a jacket when he goes outside take it off before comes in. u wo not ever beable to stop ur kids from smoking if they are going to smoke. have him wash his hands to

I went through almost the same thing with my first pregnancy,Difference being I was A smoker as well.I quit almost immediately as it made me sick . My husband though did not,We tried everything it was much harder for him,We fought, I cried he
pouted.{he still smokes Out side} Any way it came down to this He new th smell made me sick {i would actually vomit} I knew it was hard for him to quit so he still smoked, he,cut down to just at work & and when he absolutely had to at home . he went out side, come it took a shower,changed clothes & brushed his teeth. A lot of work on his part but it was only for nine months & we survived.I am still smoke free & he is still fighting the battle. I comes down to this sit down & talk, come up with a solution that u can both deal with, Take it from an ex smoker it is much harder to quit than u may think. He may really want to quit & feel guilty that he can not.

I would keep trying to convince him that smoking is extremely bad for you.

Another thing to keep in mind is that even the smell of the smoke will still effect the baby.

Amanda, I know what u r going thru & I wish u well in sorting it out. I just read the answer from Isis & hers may be the perfect answer.

I expect u have been over this with him, but he really needs to see a doctor & get serious about quitting, providing that he has willingly tried to quit before.

I have had 4 people close to me die from cancer & emphysema, & it ai not easy to see them suffer. The cancers died fairly quickly, but watching a man take 10 steps then have to rest is pretty hard to do.

The fact is, cancer & emphysema cure smoking. I hope it does not come to that in his case.

Good Luck

Its pretty common for pregnant women to get sick just from the smell of cigarette smoke. It goes away after pregnancy though.

but, in regards to ur ''not wanting ur child to know ur husband is a smoker''. sorry to say. but ur child is going to know. Maybe not for a few years, but I figured out my father was a marijuana smoker when I was around 12 without ever actually seeing him do it. The kid will know something does not smell right or wonder why their dad always leaves the room & goes outside & they r not allowed to follow. Not to be rude, but kids r not stupid. u should wake up & realize that ur kid IS going to know. Do not live in a dream world.
By the way, my father is a heavy cigarette smoker too & has done it infront of me since I can remember. I am not a smoker. Seeing him smoke, smelling how bad he smelled made me NOT want to smoke. (Well, except for the time period between 6 & 12 when I used to steal the cigarettes & smoke them in my tree house. which my parents still dont know about to this day. but its been almost 8 years since the last time I did that)

Try asking him to have a smoking plan a month meaning set a target on number of cigerattes smoke everyday in a month. Let say around 7 cigerattes. then if he achieved his goal, reduce the number of cigerattes smoke by 1. In my opinon, this will allow him to control his smoking habit.

When it is nightime, try sleeping in another room not with ur husband. If u r sick when smelling his bad smell, i suggest both of u to wear a mask(SARS preventive mask). Hope that will help it alot.

first off, did u know that breathing in even the smell off of his shirt is toxic to u & ur unborn baby? The toxins linger in the hair & clothes. Make sure if he still smokes when the baby is born he changes his clothes before he holds the baby, the toxins can actually be released from the fabric into the skin. Its really sad he smokes at all. tell him to at least go to smoking pot, it isnt nearly as dangerous as cigs. Just be careful, both my kids developed asthma because of my damn inlaws who i foudn out were smoking right in front of them when they baby sat!! trust me, that came to an end. Good luck, u can always move out & say imnot coming back until u agree to quit. If he loves u he will stop, if he choses cigs over u then, what kind of man is that & u wouldnt want him to even be a dad to ur child.

I was in this situation too. I talked to my doctor about it & he said; ''You get sick because u r worried about the effects of the smoking on ur unborn baby. And, it IS harming the baby. The best possible thing u can do is totally ban smoking around u & the unborn baby. Then, when the baby is born, the ban should NOT be lifted. Nobody should smoke around a child until 3 years of age''. Smoking around u while u r prenant can cause serious repiratory problems for the baby. It could even die.

Yeah, it is a tough habit to break. I quit a few years ago.

I was aware of the smell that cigarettes left on me, so what I did was I always smoked outside & always faced so that the wind would carry the smoke away from me, & made sure that when I exhaled the smoke that it blew away from me also. This minimized GREATLY the amount of smoke smell left on me. The ''potty flavored mouth'' was still there, so I'd gargle with some mouthwash (Minty Listerine), & that helped that.also sipping on sodas helped keep the potty mouth from coming back.

The only great thing about having a smoker for a parent, or so I've heard from coworkers, is that the children do not tend to smoke. Perhaps, over a period of time, before ur child becomes aware of what smoking is, ur husband will finally quit smoking. I know it took me years..and much of what helped me quit is knowing how much others hated to smell it, even after I'd finished the cigarette.

Now I am one of those that hates to smell it, too! :o)

Best of luck to u & ur baby...and to ur husband too!

You should have thought of all these things before you married him.You fell in love with him to love him not to change him.You knew he smoked and its not right for you to ask him to change that now.He has already tried to please you by going outside to smoke..,you are heading for marital problems if you do not change.Good luck.

i know smoking is very bad habit if ur husband wants to leave it then he can by tacking tablets and such things

Time to say goodbye!

Divorce immediately with a subsequent court-ordered restraining order. Have you considered analysis for yourself since you married this guy in the first place? I'd think seriously about it if I were you.

make him fresh carrot celery n beet juice everyday.
find a way to get him to eat sunflower seeds as well as bee pollen with organic honey (as long as hes not allergic, bee pollen has an allergy warning)
seaweed / kelp tablets / sushi may give him the minerals of 'satisfaction'
a hair analysis would identify the vitamins n minerals that he needs
talk nice to each other cos the baby can hear!

I feel ur pain. My husband is a smoker too, & he made me sick to my stomach my whole pregnancy. Now that the baby is here it is actually even worse because smoking increases the chances of SIDS, & it is hard not to think about that. But unless he is ready to quit, he won't. You said u bought ur hubby all those things to help him quit, but the fact that he did not buy them himself shows he does not want to, so u just have to give him time. At least he goes outside & respects the fact that secondhand smoke is bad for u & the baby. My hubby sits out there for a while after he is done to try to air out a bit. Ask him to try that.

As for ur kid becoming a smoker, I grew up in a household of them, & never touched a cigg. My hubby is parents never smoked & now he does. To be honest it all depends on how well u teach ur child.

Good luck!

Did he smoke when you met him?Then get over it!!!

He HAS to WANT to quit. It is that simple.
It IS an addiction.
I smoked for 33 years (what a humbling admission) & one day my son & I were shoveling snow together, & I was wheezing & getting a tight chest, & I said to myself, this is not how I want to live anymore. I want to be around for/with my family.
So I told God, yes I TOLD him, ''you have to take these things out of my life. I LIKE to smoke, I WANT to smoke, & I am GOING to smoke unless u help me, because I am a weak vessel''
That was March 1st,2005, I have not touched a cigarette once in 1 1/2 years. My wife said she never thought I would ever quit.
I didn't, I had help.
I offer up a prayer for ur husband right now.
Best wishes.

Hi. I am so sorry. This is a very hard situation, is not it. First, u need a little TLC. It is ok. This is difficult & u have been trying very hard. You have both backed into ur separate corners, have not you. There is little real communication going on now, just strike & counter stroke. If it going to change, admit that. Be honest. Both of you. No more games. You r parents now, not high school kids. Call an immediate truce. Do what u need (sleep separately) to make it easier for u both. Compromise. But then get into some counselling. Find a reputable marriage counsellor & sort this out. You need to build a bridge & u need help doing it like yesterday. As anew mom, u need calm & support now, not turmoil. And as an expectant dad, he needs to not fail. Think about it. You r letting the stress run ur lives. Take back control. Love each other. Help each other. Become a couple again before u become a trio.

First of all CALM DOWN ur only 12 weeks pregnant sooo u have a long long way to go before ur baby starts understanding that his/hers dad smokes & my follow his actions on that..in the meantime I do not blame u one bit on the smell of the smoke & if its bothering u then he should be more respectful of ur feelings & quit.. The smoke smell no matter if u smoke outside & brush ur teeth is on ur clothes & all when u come in its a smell that will stay on ur for quite awhile.. Id keep trying to talk to him & maybe soon he will quit smoking . I know its a horrible habit & even harder one to quit. Give him a bit of time & i think hopefully he will come around.

oh c'mon amanda.dont b harsh wid him but jus tell him that if he loves u..then atleast try to smoke less..i mean.not frequently..b very polite n convincing.talk him into this ..and if not then jus try it emotionally..it really helpd u know..if he loves u he will ..if not leave ..will atleas t think of it..i think this is best...else u know beter.but jus b polite..

once the baby is born you will be too busy to notice anything else but the baby your husband may even on his own cut down or give up on cigs.

If it makes you feel sick to your stomach, he will have to tough it out not getting close to you id he decides to continue. Or else he will have to shower, gargle, and change clothes a lot.
p.s. I smoke, but if a loved one hates it/can not stand the aftereffects so much I could not hug/kiss, I'd do my damndest to quit.

Tell him to quit or leave. Smoking is not good no matter how you look at it.

well, unfortunately one must sleep in the bed youve made. It is a tough addiction, but you knew he was a smoker when you married him. That did not seem to be part of your criteria for finding a spouse, soooo your going to have to deal with it. Sounds to me like hes being very accomodating by going outside and doing the right things.